Welcome to my Watering Hole

Years ago, I heard a man say, “You will be the same in five years’ time as you are today, except for two things—the people you meet and the books you read.” When I look back over the past 32 years of following Jesus, I would have to say that I agree. If not for the people who have come into my life and the books I have read over the years, my life would have changed very little.

The first book that I read was the Bible. I picked it up, after making a decision to follow Jesus, and to this day I have been unable to put it down. The second book I read was called Where Is God When It Hurts? by Philip Yancey. I think we all struggle to find ways to understand what God is trying to tell us. For me, one of the most effective ways is through what I read. Over time I have kept a journal of quotations that have had an impact on me. Often I reflect on something I recorded years ago and see that in some areas of my life I have grown and in others there is still much work to do. Sometimes I have been motivated, encouraged and inspired by what I read, sometimes frightened and overwhelmed, but never, never discouraged or without hope.

In my conversations with men, more often than not, other than the odd newspaper or magazine, many read very little if at all. My suggestions is, before you read on, take time out to pray, ask yourself and God what are the challenges at this time in your life and then read, expecting the Holy Spirit to bring alive what is relevant to you. Don’t read for reading’s sake. See it as a watering hole where your thirst for life’s answers can be quenched. As time goes by, I will add to the site. I want it to be living.

In conclusion, I have to say that there are many things I don’t know. One thing I do know is that God would want me to share with you what He has shared with me. I pray that He will bring alive these writings and burn them in your heart. I wish you well. Life is very demanding for many, and at times it seems that society is demanding more than we’re able to give. But don’t give up. To borrow the title of Wayne Bennett’s autobiography, Don’t Die with the Music in You. That would be a tragedy.

In His name,

Grahame

Sunday, December 1, 2013


The Coming Bushman

Ours is a story of Christmas
out back
when Jesus the bushman was born,
a story of Mary
and Joseph and Jesus
good folk like us from the bush.

We are the gamblers, the stockmen,
the wise
the women who battle the scrub,
the people who wear
no airs on their face
and know the price of a grave.

Years we have waited for someone
to come
born out of true country stock,
a bushman foretold
by drover of old,
a battler as straight as a die.

Late ‘round the campfire we sang
of our dream
a man who is one with the bush,
a man who would gamble
his life for his friends
and knew the silence of God.

Ours is a story of Jesus
the Bushman
born behind Bethlehem’s pub,
a boy who was born
to be a king of the bush
and die for his mates in the end.

–Norman Habel

Thursday, October 31, 2013


Some amazing facts that confirm that the Bible is so special:

The Bible comprises a collection of sixty-six separate books written on three continents, in three languages, over a fifteen year time span by thirty-seven different human authors inspired by the Holy Spirit.  These included kings and peasants, philosophers and fishermen, poets and statesmen, shepherds and soldiers.  Even with such remarkable diversity, the Scriptures by far possess the greatest unity and continuity among the great works of literature. 

–Patrick Morley

Monday, September 30, 2013


I really like what Stephen Arterburn said about young men receiving acceptance from their parents.  When I recorded this in my journal, my children were still quite young.  Now I find myself echoing his words that “I am now counsellor and friend”.  Here’s what he has to say:

Young men grow up hearing mostly conditional acceptance from their parents.  If acceptance or affirmation is expressed at all, it is usually in connection with some accomplishment:  academics, athletics, scouting, civic work.  Achievements in those areas are definitely commendable.  But if a young man only hears affirmation when he performs, he leaves home “trained” to perform in order to continue hearing the words of acceptance he so desperately needs to conclude that he is “okay”.

When a young man is blessed by his father, he is released to become his own man.  The father says, “My days of training and influence are complete.  I am always here to help you should you need something I can provide.  But I am now stepping down from my position over you to assume a position beside you.  Instead of your teacher and corrector, I am now counsellor and friend.  I believe you are well prepared to achieve everything that is your heart’s desire.  You have my blessings not because of what I believe you will accomplish, but because of who I know you are.  My only dream and expectation is that you will fulfil all your own dreams, in your own way, according to your own timetable.”

–Stephen Arterburn, The Secrets Men Keep

Saturday, August 31, 2013


On the subject of Men’s Shed, the following are statements relating to the ministry of the masculine spirit:

“Christianity based on risk avoidance will never attract men.  If our message is full of don’ts, be carefuls, and play it safes, men will turn their backs.  Christianity is not an insurance policy; it’s abundant life.”

“The words strong and strength appear 561 times in KJV while weak and weakness show up just 83 times.  It is far more effective to speak of men’s strength when teaching men.”

“Pastor Veith makes an important announcement:  ‘As of next month we are cancelling the nursery and Sunday School.  We will no longer offer weddings, baptisms, baby showers, or funerals.  We are dropping our choir and pulling out of our partnership with the soup kitchen.  Instead, we’re going to minister in a new way.  Our children’s ministry will be based on sports leagues.  We will offer free automotive repairs to the working poor.  We will provide carpentry, plumbing, and electrical upgrades to senior homes.  We will deploy our members as security ambassadors, walking the streets of high crime neighbourhoods.  And we will dig water well in Honduras and Nicaragua.’”

“Robert Lewis’s approach to unchurched men is simple.  ‘You don’t teach the Bible first.  You teach real life issues first; then you bring the Bible in to surprise them.’”

“If you’re looking for a life that will challenge you from day one, look no further than a follower of the Way.  As a follower of the Way, you will engage in life faster and better than most people your age . . . you’ll experience things that you never thought possible and go places most people only read about.  You’ll learn your capabilities, sharpen your skills and then push yourself to the limit on a daily basis.  You’ll grow stronger physically, mentally, socially, spiritually and feel a sense of pride you never felt before.”

–Erwin McManus

Wednesday, July 31, 2013


Discipleship means adherence to Christ and, because Christ is the object of all that adherence, it must take the form of discipleship.  An abstract theology, a doctrinal system, a general religious knowledge of the subject of grace or the forgiveness of sins render discipleship superfluous, and in fact exclude any idea of discipleship whatsoever, and are essentially that which cannot be matched to the whole conception of following Christ . . . Christianity without the living Christ is inevitably Christianity without discipleship, and Christianity without discipleship is always Christianity without Christ.

–Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Sunday, June 30, 2013


I was having a conversation with someone at a Shed Night recently regarding the vision for the Men’s Shed.  He responded by talking about the time he was involved in ministry and how the most difficult challenge was to come up with something different each time and the amount of time and effort went into setting up and pulling down for each event.  It reminded me of an interview with John Ortberg I once heard on the subject of leadership.  He was asked the question, “How does a leader lead well?”  He responded by referring to a book written by Dallas Willard called Living in the Vision of God.  This is what he said:

“Any great movement of God begins with a vision, only it’s not a vision like anybody talks about these days in leadership circles.  It’s a different thing.  It’s not a vision of what a person or church or movement is going to do.  It’s a vision of how good God is and how fortunate I am to be His child and His friend on earth.  It’s a vision of that which already exists.  It’s a vision of the goodness and reality of God and then out of the energy and goodness of that vision grows a desire to do something good for God.  And then what happens is over time as that thing grows (it could be church, denomination , movement or whatever) people’s focus starts to be on the thing that is growing rather than on the reality of God and the result is that the mission replaces the vision.  Once that happens, then it’s just a matter of time before everything falls apart, because then the question becomes, ‘How do we make the thing bigger?’, ‘How do we make it look better?’  or ‘How do we at least keep it propped up?’  Then the preoccupation becomes numbers, goals, programs.  And then people have to live with stress, exhaustion and competition.  And then they burn out and it all falls apart.”

When I heard this, I thought that it was great advice for anybody contemplating serving God and staying on course.

–John Ortberg, Growing Deeper Series:  How Does a Leader Lead Well?

Friday, May 31, 2013


On the subject of Satan

Satan will use any approach to keep us from experiencing the full measure of God’s riches.  Any error, no matter how small or great will do.  He works through the current world philosophies, through Bible verses taken out of context, through charismatic personalities who “sound” so right and sincere.  No method is overlooked in Satan’s attempt to mislead the chosen of God.

Satan says:  Seek success at any price.
God says:  “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all things shall be added to you.” (Matthew 6:33)

Satan says:  Seek riches at any cost.
God says:  “Do not lay up for yourselves treasure on earth . . . But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven.”  (Matthew 6:19, 20)

Satan says:  Be popular; push ahead.
God says:  “If anyone wishes to come after Me, let him deny himself . . .  (Matthew 16:24)

Satan says:  If you don’t look after yourself, no one else will.  God helps those who help themselves.
God says:  “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself.”  (Philippians 2:3, 4)

Satan says:  I can’t be happy unless I’m married.
God says:  “I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am.”  (Philippians 4:11)

Satan says:  Eat, drink, and be merry for tomorrow we die.
God says:  “Man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.”  (Matthew 4:4)

Satan says:  If it feels good, do it.
God says:  “Not my will, but Thine be done.”  (Luke 22:42)

Satan says:  Everything is relative.
God says:  “Thy word is truth.” (John 17:17)

We could go on, but the point is clear.  We must have a plumbline of Scripture against which we can examine the philosophies, premises, and suggestions that we run into every day.  A carpenter can’t build a house without a plumbline.  If he tries to eyeball it and build it according to what looks good in his own eyes, he will wind up with a crooked house.  He must have a standard that is inviolate.  Regardless of what he feels or how it looks as he’s going along, if he sticks to that plumbline, he will wind up with a straight house.

So it is with life.  We must look at the Word of God as the plumbline by which everything is measured.

–Bob George, Classic Christianity

                               

 

Tuesday, April 30, 2013


JESUS FREAKS

William never let anyone forget that their main purpose was to reach people with the Gospel.  All other activities of the Army were focused on this.  William and Catherine knew that real help and permanent change only came when the Spirit of God would touch these people’s lives.
–William & Catherine Booth, Salvation Army

It was not long after this that he began distributing passages and chapters of the Bible that he translated into French to any who asked.  So loved was the Word of God among the uneducated, that country people were able to recite entire books of the Bible by heart.  Others even knew the entire New Testament.
–Peter Waldo, Lyons France

Tear me to pieces and rip my soul from my body, but you will never force that detestable word of denial from my mouth.
–Michael Nakashima, Japan - tortured and had boiling water poured on his head and body until he died

Quotes from Jesus Freaks

What is it about these people that is so inspiring?  It’s their obedience to seek first the kingdom of God.  We can see that they were set free from living for trivia.  We can see that the kingdom of God was in their hearts.  They had the right stuff.

Thursday, March 28, 2013

An Easter Reflection

See, my servant shall prosper; he shall be lifted up, and shall be very high.  Isaiah 52:13 NRSV

Good Friday:  The Transformative Love of Jesus

What a holy day this is, Good Friday.  But taken on its own, the events of this day feel anything but good.

Jesus, who rode into Jerusalem on the back of a donkey only five days ago is headed towards the Cross today.  He gave up His life for His friends, most of whom stood aside and silently watched Him go to His death.  The love that Jesus showed inspires me and spurs me to focus on the parts of my life where I live unaffected by God’s love.

On this day, in many churches around the world, coverings are placed over the images of Jesus, including the Crucifix or crosses and any painting of Him.  This is a solemn act that’s intended to direct us towards mourning.   Similarly, there is tradition in many churches to bury the alleluias we sing and say.  Alleluia comes from the Hebrew and means “Praise the Lord.”  Today, think of not saying it as a sort of verbal fast.  When we hear, say and sing it again, two days from now, we will appreciate and mean it all the more.

I have never experienced Christ’s love like a thunderbolt, but I’ve seen and been through a slow process of transfiguration at various times in my life–times when I have been affected by God’s love.  Transformations can come when we live a life with God.  With Him, we “shall be exalted and lifted up, and shall be very high.”

–John Sweeney,  Daily Guideposts

Thursday, February 28, 2013


Doug Coupland, who wrote Generation X and popularised the term Gen X, also wrote the book called Life After God. . . .  Let me quote from the dustcover of Life After God:

As suburban children we floated at night in swimming pools the temperature of blood, pools the color of earth as seen from outer space.  You are the first generation raised without religion.  What happens if we are raised without religion or belief?  As we grow older the beauty and enchantment of the world tempers our souls.  We are living creatures with strong religious impulses, yet where do these impulses flow in a world of malls, TV, Kraft dinners and jets.  How do we cope with loneliness?  How do we deal with anxiety, the clash of relationships?  How do we reach the quiet, safe layer of our lives?

Coupland tells many such stories in the Book, but on the next to last page he writes this conclusion:

Now–here is my secret:  I tell it to you with openness of heart that I doubt I shall ever achieve again, so I pray that you are in a quiet room as you hear these words.  My secret is that I need God– that I am sick and can no longer make it alone.  I need God to help me give, because I no longer seem to be capable of giving; to help me be kind, as I no longer seem capable of kindness; to help me love, as I seem beyond being able to love.

–Patrick Morley, A Man’s Guide to Spiritual Disciplines

To all who read these words, I have a secret also.  Thirty-five years ago I sat in a quiet room and struggled to say yes to a man’s invitation to ask Jesus into my life.  Not because I didn’t want to, I just struggled to find the confidence to be sure that I could make this relationship work, though I did not articulate it in my heart the same way at the time.

I harboured a deep, deep secret like Doug Coupland.  My secret was that I needed God, that I was sick and could no longer make it on my own.  I needed Him to help me give, because I no longer seemed able to give.  I needed God to help me be kind as I no longer seemed capable of kindness, to help me love as I seemed beyond being able to love unconditionally.  In that moment back in 1978 in a quiet room I said yes.

Thursday, January 31, 2013


Just after I became a Christian, a good friend said to me, “Now that you have been introduced to Jesus, get to know Him by praying to Him and reading His Word.”  I never forgot that advice, yet I find that in today’s world, many Christian men have given up on reading the Bible.  Why is Bible study so important?

Patrick Morley in his book titled, A Man’s Guide to the Spiritual Disciplines, says on this subject that we should remember that Scripture has a purpose.  The gospel of John was written by one of Jesus’ disciples–a close friend who knew our Lord personally.  Toward the end of his book, the apostle John explained why his account was selective:  “Jesus did many other miraculous signs in the presence of his disciples, which are not recorded in this book.  But these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name.”  (John 20:30-31)  Patrick states that in 1994 a study revealed that 73% of Americans believed all the miracles in the Bible took place exactly as stated.  But looking at the culture, belief hasn’t changed how people think or behave.  John said he recorded those miracles for a purpose.  He intended for his readers to understand and accept that Jesus is the Messiah–the Saviour–and know that He is God’s Son.  Patrick Morley concludes by asking why that is important.  He says it’s important because belief gives birth to life.  Theologians say that Scriptures are given for our justification and sanctification.  That basically means the Bible exists to bring us to faith (justification or salvation) and to help us become more and more like Christ as we grow in our faith (sanctification, or holiness).

I agree.  I am kidding myself if I believe that I can grow to be more like Jesus and not study the Bible on a regular basis.  The following passage carries a promise for any man who makes regular contact with God’s Word.  “Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers.  But his delight is in the law of the Lord and on his law he meditates day and night.  He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither.  Whatever he does prospers.”  Psalm 1:1-3

If you have not been reading your Bible, why not plug into a Bible study group today?  I hear that there is a good one starting up for men.  Just contact Gateway Baptist Men’s Network for details.